Helping your Nanny and Child Bond.

Finding the right nanny is a big step, but ensuring they build a strong connection with your child is also essential. That’s where the magic happens. In Oklahoma, where family values run deep and communities thrive on trust, a nanny isn’t just hired to help—they become part of the family. And just like any good relationship, helping the nanny bond with your little ones takes time, patience, and a little bit of good ol’ Oklahoma kindness.

Whether you're in Tulsa, OKC, or the countryside, these tried-and-true strategies will help your nanny and child create a relationship that feels as warm and welcoming as a Sunday potluck.

1. Give Them Time to Build That Trust 

Relationships take time to get comfortable, like breaking into a new pair of cowboy boots. Don’t expect your child and nanny to hit it off instantly—it’s normal for children to feel a little shy or hesitant at first. The best way to ease them in? Give them dedicated one-on-one time where they can interact without too much pressure.

What This Looks Like in Action: ✔ Start with activities your child loves, such as playing with toy trucks, coloring, or running around in the backyard.

✔ Allow your nanny to take the lead in playtime while you step back so they can build rapport naturally.

✔ Keep goodbyes short and sweet. A drawn-out farewell can make it harder for your child to transition into nanny time.

2. Establish a Predictable Routine 

We all know something about tradition and stability—whether it’s Friday night football, Sunday church, or a favorite diner that’s been around for decades. Children thrive on the same consistency, and a solid routine helps them feel secure with a new caregiver.

What This Looks Like in Action:

✔ Set up a daily schedule that includes meal times, nap times, play, and learning activities.

✔ Make sure the nanny follows household rules and maintains consistent routines—even small changes can throw a child off.

✔ Use transition cues like a special goodbye song or a “see ya later, alligator” to make parting ways smoother.

When your nanny becomes an integral part of your child's life, it fosters a routine, that builds connection and trust over time.

3. Involve Your Child in the Transition 

If you have a strong-willed child (we see you, toddler parents!), they’ll feel much more comfortable with a new nanny if they have a say in the process.

What This Looks Like in Action:

✔ Let your child "introduce" your nanny to their favorite toys, books, or spots around the house.

✔ Encourage the nanny to ask your child questions about their interests, favorite snacks, or pets.

✔ If your child is older, let them help create a welcome card or pick out a small gift to give to the nanny on their first day.

You give them a sense of ownership in this new relationship by making them feel included.

4. Keep Open & Honest Communication with Your Nanny 

Good communication isn’t just about ensuring the house stays in order—it’s about ensuring your nanny has all the tools they need to connect with your child in the best way possible.

What This Looks Like in Action:

✔ Share essential details about your child’s likes, dislikes, fears, and quirks—their love for Paw Patrol or their absolute refusal to eat anything green.

✔ Encourage your nanny to provide daily updates. A quick text or voice memo about how the day went can go a long way in keeping you informed.

✔ Set up regular check-ins in person or over the phone to discuss any concerns or adjustments that may be needed.

No one expects nannies to be mind readers, and keeping an open line of communication ensures that everyone is on the same page.

5. Be Patient—Relationships Take Time 

Forming a strong bond isn’t something you can rush. Some kids will warm up to their nanny in a day, while others may need weeks to trust them fully. The key? Give it time and be patient.

What This Looks Like in Action:

✔ Reassure your child that taking things slow is okay and that you trust their nanny.

✔ If your child has separation anxiety, start with shorter nanny-led activities before leaving them alone together.

✔ Encourage your nanny—let them know what’s working and remind them that slow progress is still progress.

Building a bond is like growing a strong Oklahoma oak—it doesn’t happen overnight, but with care and consistency, it becomes something unshakable.

Final Thoughts 

When a child feels safe, loved, and understood by their nanny, the relationship becomes more than just a job—a real connection. Focusing on trust, routine, and communication sets the stage for a strong and lasting bond.

Looking for a nanny who’s the right fit for your family? E-Nanny is here to help you find caregivers who feel like family from day one. Let’s ensure your little ones are in the best possible hands!